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- Make sure she is not having her periods.
- When you attempt a sexual advance make sure her anxiety and stress levels is as low as possible and that your actions sustain and encourage this state. Avoid alchol.
- Don't talk too much. Sex is not logical. You can't reason somebody into bed.
- Let your hands do the loving and your body do the lusting. Your hands need to show that your the romantic sensual type. Your body can be the wild man.
Accusing your wife of cheating will increase her anxiety levels. So a sexual advance following such an accusation is likely to fail. Studies show that arousal for men is mostly visual. For women it is about having a quite place where they feel at ease. Creating a relaxed environment is sometimes called being romantic. If your sexual advance fails make sure your frustration is not reinforcing the tension. Performance presure does not help a women attain a relaxed state. And every sexual advance does not need to end in sex. If you find this difficult then make small "discrete" sexual advances in public where you both no that it can be just play. Whisper love stuff in her ear when your at the supermarket. Smell her hair on the bus and give out a single very quite but determined grunt. And learn to manage your own emotions. You can't be in a fun mood if your over the top frustrated. You may need to take up running of some other physical activity to burn off some tension. Sex should be about play, not about your personal mission. And don't forget personal hygiene. Does your body stink? What about your teeth? A well trained wife will intiate sex and take the lead. Then you just sit back and enjoy the ride. Its all about loving and learning form eachother. You need to understand the creature that is your women. She aint a machine.
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