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>> You seem to assume that advertising for attention is advertising for sex. I
>> think that is incorrect and is just a way of letting men off the hook, although
>> I realise there are some shades of grey in this. I think that it's advertising for sexual attention.
I want men to look at me twirling around admiring me in my little mini-skirt
and boob-tube, but I don't want them to regard me as a sexual object.
Say this a few times - it's actually quite funny. And no, I'm not letting men off the hook. Women have every right to go out to
night clubs and tease men. However there is a point at which most reasonable
people would consider that consent has been given. I have been in the situation where a woman has 'withdrawn consent' most of
the way through the act, and then actually laughed at me when I stopped. Then
(after I thought 'stuff this' and kept going), she said (the next day) she was
going to have me charged with rape. I told her not to be stupid and ignored
her. .. and she later came back for more too. Yes, she was weird. Actually quite
psychotic, with the ability of hindsight - but that's another story. Most times, when I tell this story to another man, they just nod, and then
tell me a similar story. Most times, when I tell this story to another woman, they shift
uncomfortably for a second and say something like 'yeah, I know that
happens'. I have never told the story to full-on feminist, so I don't
know what reaction I would get from there. This experience (and others like it) have instilled a healthy dose of
skepticism about the murky area of informed consent. Frankly I would want some
pretty tangible evidence before I convicted in a 'consent rape' case - probably
stronger than 'it must have been rape, because don't remember consenting'.
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